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Who can I tell?

Talking about this stuff could feel like the scariest thing to do. You might feel ashamed or frightened and worried about how the other person is going to handle it. Take your time choosing who you talk to about this stuff, it’s OK to wait until you are ready to talk and until you’ve found the right person for you.

Lots of survivors (but not all) say talking is the thing that helps the most. It can be hard finding the right person to talk to but keep on trying and don’t give up. Sometimes people won’t believe what you tell them – remember, that is their issue. It’s tough, but keep looking for people to tell. You will find the right person eventually. Counsellors and therapists are usually great people to talk to and you need to find the right match for you. If it’s not working out with one support person, try another. You deserve to have good support.

Did you know?

At any age if a girl gets pregnant she has the choice of whether to keep or abort the pregnancy. Find out about abortions.

Often the first people that survivors talk to are friends or their boyfriends/girlfriends. The main thing is to talk to someone you trust.

Some people you can talk to are:

  • Help lines (like Youthline 0800 376 633)
  • School counsellors
  • Family members/caregivers
  • Friends
  • Friend’s parents
  • Social workers
  • Nurses or doctors
  • Church leaders
  • Teachers
  • Police - if you would like to know more about reporting to the Police click here

You can find more people to talk to on our where to get support page.

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Just a heads up, this website has some stuff about sexual violence which might be upsetting,
especially if you or someone close to you has experienced it.

If you find yourself getting upset, make sure you get support or take a few deep breaths
and think about something that makes you smile.

Some of the topics in here may also conflict with your beliefs.
We think that if a person is harming someone, or their human rights
IT IS NOT OK - no matter what your beliefs are.

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